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Men And Women Feel And Behave As Different Species

admin_bb — Sun, 15 Jan 2012 10:52:48 +0000

In the News (from The Huffington Post): “Three researchers put forth a study that was published on Wednesday on the Public Library of Science website saying they’ve found that men and women feel and behave in markedly different ways. They’re almost like ‘different species,’ Paul Irwing, one of the researchers, told The Huffington Post.

“The research, conducted by Marco Del Giudice of Italy’s University of Turin and Irwing and Tom Booth of the UK’s University of Manchester, involved getting 10,000 Americans to take a questionnaire that measured 15 different personality traits. According to their analysis, men are far more dominant, reserved, utilitarian, vigilant, rule-conscious, and emotionally stable, while women are far more deferential, warm, trusting, sensitive, and emotionally ‘reactive.’ The two sexes were roughly the same when it came to perfectionism, liveliness, and abstract versus practical thinking.”

My Comment: According to Kabbalah, men and women are completely different because their roots are in the opposite worlds: Men are in Zeir Ampin, and women are in Malchut. Hence their lack of understanding of each other.

Unity is possible only in at the degree above them both and only in mutual integral combination (mutual guarantee). This can be achieved only through the joint integral upbringing. That is why we see today such dramatic estrangement of the genders. It will make us feel the need to agree with the method that facilitates closer relations, proposed by integral upbringing.
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Down With Loneliness!

admin_bb — Sun, 08 Jan 2012 07:02:14 +0000

Question: What is the reason for taking the integral family course for the women who don’t have a family and possibly never will?

Answer: I doubt that in the integral society we would fail to reach such a state when everyone would have a family. On the contrary, a person will feel that a family is that primary instrument through which he or she influences the world. That’s one.

Second, we need to understand and realize that nature is designed in such a way that the number of men and women in the general population is going to depend on how we will conduct ourselves with each other. Through our relationships we will, so to speak, introduce our desired quantitative and qualitative inputs into nature, and we will receive precisely the kind of progeny that would create correct connections and units. It depends only on our harmony.

Since today we do not exist in a state of harmony with our own self, between us, and with nature, we give birth to children who struggle to find anything suitable for themselves. We do not imbue them with integrality, and that is why our world is falling apart today.

If we approach this question globally, through that we will instill into our children completely different informational records, new “genes.” They will be born in such a form that their common field of nature, one that drives all of us towards correct development and a particular goal, will gather them in mutual likeness. Each of them will quickly find their second half.
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From a “Talk on Integral Education,” 12/12/11

Co-Ed Or Single Sex Education

admin_bb — Thu, 05 Jan 2012 10:18:30 +0000

Question: What should be the class composition in integral upbringing courses? Should men and women study together, or is it better to study separately, as with children?

Answer: I think that we need to eliminate as many obstacles as we can. And when men and women sit together, as a rule, this leads to additional obstacles. After all, we are all people, and we have normal instincts, but it’s best to eliminate them while we study.

To this day there are many educational institutions in the world that practice single sex education. And practice shows that it is more effective than co-ed. Therefore, it is best to separate men and women.

However, after a certain period of preparation of male and female groups, they need to be combined with the aim of discussing and clarifying common issues together. Then we’ll be able to see how, on the basis of the covered material and having changed and received an objective integral view of the world, they use discussions or disputes to begin establishing a new system of relationships. By controlling one another, they begin to create something common: not a male or female part, but common to all—the prototype of the future integral society.

But here we need to discuss our attitude to children and parents, including several generations, and to clarify, debate, and actualize these things accordingly.
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From a “Talk on Integral Education” 12/12/11

Courses On Household Management

admin_bb — Wed, 04 Jan 2012 07:50:49 +0000

Every course in the system of integral upbringing carries a tremendous load of meaning in changing each of us as a personality and as an integral individual within society. And from here spring the smaller, more practical courses on household management. That involves conduct in a family, between spouses, with children, and with parents, upbringing, and running the household. A great deal of questions of ethical and moral nature emerge here.

I think that all of these courses should be led by a psychologist, with many examples from our life: What was and what ought to be, how to build a bridge for transitioning from our past states (domestic, spousal, pertaining to housekeeping and children’s upbringing) towards new ones.

Children’s upbringing and the influence of parents on their children are considered separately. We do not tear the family apart, don’t exert any pressure on the parents, and don’t distance them from their children like it was done during the Soviet times when children were sent to boarding schools, or in the Israeli kibbutzim when they were simply taken from their parents and raised separately. Generally speaking, they pursued good goals, but everything came down to exerting force on an individual. It should not be this way.

Under no circumstances do we destroy a family. We simply teach people the correct inclusion into one another. They must merge together internally, connect in such a way that a family becomes a pillar of the integral society and embodies one unit, a single small system that would join together with other such systems.

Comment: How can this be done? How can they be joined?

Answer: If both parents and children complete essentially the same courses, except each according to his age and mentality, then there is no problem in them starting to change involuntarily and discussing these changes in their family circle. Shame and reproaches have no place here because the whole society is obliged to change.

Now we all have to play this game specifically in order to position ourselves under the kind influence of nature. Otherwise nature will force us to do this with its subsequent development showing our contradiction to it, and we will experience that as tremendous suffering.
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From a “Talk on Integral Education” 12/12/11

We Will Not Succeed Without Women’s Support

admin_bb — Fri, 23 Dec 2011 11:33:02 +0000

Question: What should women’s work be now, after the convention?

Answer: In principle, a woman’s work is the same as a man’s: It is in caring for our unity, for the birth of our new state. In men, however, this state is more active, directed specifically towards unification.

By the way, I saw an impulse towards that in women as well: the way they suddenly embraced and held onto each other. It is very unnatural in our world, but on the other hand, it truly stemmed from their feeling of striving towards unity. It was quite wonderful to observe this. When people rise above themselves, they lose perception of gender, age, and all the differences of our world and unite in the internal awakening towards the upper one.

You sensed this aspiration from within your essence as a woman, and now you can describe and convey that to all the other women so they would have a good example. I was impressed by women’s behavior: to what extent they desire to support the men and are prepared to sacrifice everything for the sake of success. This is the women’s work—among themselves and in support of the men. The women comprise a single female part, and the men the single joint male image, and in this manner they work together.

I hope that you will feel this even deeper. We don’t yet have the ability to describe the sensations of our states. We lack the words; we don’t yet understand where we are. But try to do that anyway, at least with psychological impressions. Women know how to do that.

Write about yourselves, write about all your states, don’t be shy. Let it become an example for all the other women and enter our network so that through the women’s page on our website you could unite and prepare for the next convention. This is very important. Without women’s support no kind of success will be possible.
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From the Sunday Virtual Lesson Series 12/11/2011

Inside A Unified System

admin_bb — Mon, 19 Dec 2011 10:05:36 +0000

Question: If all the women of the world group really worry about the men’s advancement, will they be able to integrally influence the thoughts of the entire world?

Answer: Of course they will. This is because we are part of the world, and we are connected with it globally and integrally by millions of different networks, whether we want it or not.

The entire system of creation is so mutually interlocked that every thought, every desire is part of this system. You don’t give orders to influence or not to influence. All of our internality, all our desires and thoughts, our hearts and minds, are in this system. So undoubtedly, by being a strong internal part, we strongly influence the entire external world.

Especially now, when we are beginning to attain the upper world, we will become a billion times stronger than anyone else. So the same kindness, cooperation, concern, and mutuality will gradually permeate the rest of the world, and all people will feel a need for it. They will begin to understand that nature is arranged in such a way that we all are interconnected and should be joined together by positive forces, by positive thoughts and desires.
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From the Sunday Virtual Lesson Series 12/11/2011

Advice On Caring For A Newborn

admin_bb — Tue, 13 Dec 2011 13:05:51 +0000

Question: During the lesson you said that right now the main thing for your students is to grow the feeling born between them (the common desire towards the quality of mutual bestowal), which already exists independently from them on its own, like a newborn who has separated from his mother. What should our next actions be like?

Answer: Now we only need to strive to grow the newborn desire by using the egoism that has appeared in us. We should add it to our common connection and thereby strengthen it, like an athlete who becomes stronger through using the resistance of sports equipment.

Question: Since the connection is realized by the male part of our world group, how does the female part participate in it?

Answer: The female part supports the men in this, obligates, reinforces, and reassures them. It also actively engages in the dissemination of the idea of mutual guarantee, the integrated connection of all of humanity, for the 99%, meaning the general public.
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ARI Institute Participates In An International Seminar On Women

admin_bb — Tue, 29 Nov 2011 15:47:22 +0000

Remarkable participation of the ARI Institute in an international seminar on women

Members of our ARI Institute, Rachel Laitman and Norma Livne, were selected by the Millenia 2015 international project among hundreds of candidates from all over the world to participate in the seminar “Women Actors of Development for the Global Challenges” that took place in Paris, France on November 21, 2011.

The conference was organized by The Detree Institute, a European non-governmental research centre for regional development. 50 women representatives of universities, scientific institutions, international organizations, and economic and social bodies from 17 countries gathered for the event at the Centre de Sociologie de l’Innovation, Ecole des Mines, Paris, considered the equivalent of Harvard University for research on economics, science, and sociology.

Through our materials and active participation in the discussions, we contributed to the foresight exercise that will lead to the “Millennia2015 Action plan for women’s empowerment,” an international conference to be held by UNESCO at its headquarters in Paris in 2012.

As ARI Institute, we focus on “the strength of networks for women” and “women and girls, lifelong education and training,” “women and men, complementary role.” The audience was very receptive and our proposals and visions were included in the summary of the event for further inclusion in the high level international working groups. We made contacts for future collaborations with colleagues from Canada, USA, France, Panama, Switzerland, Italy.

Milennia2015 international community gathers more than two thousands experts in 79 countries, women and men, to strengthen and to promote the empowerment of women all over the world.
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A Man And A Woman: Two Factors For Success

admin_bb — Tue, 29 Nov 2011 12:58:44 +0000

There is a certain unification, preparation, that only men can carry out if they detach themselves from their families, from the women, and seclude themselves. When you go beyond the boundaries of our world and exist only in unity with the friends, this produces a special prayer, special sensations. We felt it. It is really so, and it cannot be described in any other way.

Women’s preparation is not in order to connect themselves, but to help the men to do that, to try to create all the necessary conditions for it, and to quietly push them towards connection. Women can help men overcome their ego and reach unity.

By the way, our women, all over the world, understood this point very well. They supported us and I am grateful for that. Their support was felt throughout the Arava convention, and by that they performed a great service for us.

The December convention already entails the state of standing at the foot of Mt Sinai, where there are women, children, and the elderly. However, the foundation is the men, 600,000 souls, not by their quantity, but might.

In the wisdom of Kabbalah everything is measured by its power because Kabbalah talks about uniting into one general desire. This one mighty desire is expressed as the number 600,000, which symbolizes the power of our unity. To rise to the level of 600,000 means to reach the complete revelation of the upper force, the Creator.

I hope that we will attain it because we have all the prerequisites for that. At least we are doing everything that is in our power. The whole world also needs what we are doing, and it is thanks to this that we receive support from Above. We succeed not because we are so special and talented, but because the world needs a group that will lead it forward.
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From the Sunday Virtual Lesson Series 11/20/2011

Women’s Support

bb_admin — Thu, 17 Nov 2011 15:22:36 +0000

Question: A convention in the Arava desert will be held this weekend, which will be attended by several hundred men from Israel to unite, to crystallize the inner force of mutual guarantee between us, and to become the nucleus for unification at the December convention. How can we do this?

Answer: Indeed, there has to be a special inner nucleus in which all the points will gather into one. This point is surrounded by a more passive part—the women of Bnei Baruch, and the widest circle is the external world.

On the inside, all of our friends from the whole world merge together. Why men? Because that’s the nature of creation: They are the ones who need correction to attain love and unity, whereas women reach this differently. Then, when we attain the desired state, we will be able to pass it on to others.

Question: How should women support men at this convention?

Answer: They have to think about our success. We need this support as without it we will have a very hard time. It’s exactly the same as how “the sons of Israel came out of Egypt by virtue of the righteous women.”

Women are a very powerful part of the common system and their support is simply indispensable. When a woman worries about a man, this gives him great forces, a great impetus to realize her yearnings. Without women’s support, we will not succeed.
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From the 4th part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 11/16/11, “The Arvut (Mutual Guarantee)”

Questions About Women And Studying

admin_bb — Wed, 16 Nov 2011 11:03:19 +0000

Question: If you ask people what the soul is, the majority will say that it is something like a cloud or some kind of energy, characteristic of this person (his or her reaction to what happens around them). During my studies I understood that the soul is the quality of a character, which we do not know, and that we discover it only when we unite with each other.

But a woman cannot unite. Does this mean that she has no soul? A woman does not draw the Light and, and hence she does not have to study The Study of the Ten Sefirot or The Zohar. Once, there were women prophets. What is the difference between them and those who predict the future?

Answer: By participating, a woman receives everything through a man even if she does not study Kabbalah, although today it is not forbidden to anyone.

Question: When I feel good and easy about my life, what can I do to quickly discover the next part about myself that is lacking? This morning I felt the need to connect and study with others, but the lesson does not start until later tonight! I feel like I am wasting time. What should I do?

Answer: Read Shamati, the Psalms, and any of our sources.
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Questions About Men And Women, Family, And Kabbalah Studies

admin_bb — Thu, 27 Oct 2011 08:37:45 +0000

Question: If the majority of the men in a group (virtual group in this case) are not married, then is it even possible for such men to feel the desire of the women in the group? Are they even capable of feeling us? If it feels like there is no desire on the part of the men to listen to the women’s concerns, is this a failure on the part of the women?

Answer: It is desirable to eliminate this shortcoming as soon as possible.

Question: My husband and I are studying Kabbalah through the Internet for about two years. He can’t attend the lessons daily because of his work. We are having problems between us more and more often. He is angry and blames me and our daughter about everything he thinks is not right. My question is: How should I manage this attitude? I understand that everything happens because the “cloud” of bestowal is coming closer, but what should I do? I don’t want to get divorced.

Answer: Make an agreement with him that you both try to play the spiritual world, deliberately.

Question: How can I create a good environment if I’m under the bad influence of my family and cultural habits?

Answer: The right environment should be created precisely in such bad environment, and it should raise you toward good and bestowal by itself, without your own efforts.
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A Question About Why Women Need To Cover Their Hair

admin_bb — Wed, 05 Oct 2011 07:36:41 +0000

Question: I googled this question: “Why do married Orthodox Jewish women cover their hair?” This is what I found:

“According to The Zohar and Kabbalah, Jewish mysticism, the woman is considered Malchut, or the “vessel.” The man is considered Zeir Unpin, or the “drawer of Light and energy.” When a Jewish man and woman marry, their Neshamot (souls) become one and they create a complete system. Universally speaking, the man draws the light down from the universe, and the woman is the vessel in which this Light goes—for her, her husband, and any children they have together.

How does she manage this energy? Through her hair. A woman’s hair on her head (and a man’s hair on his beard and certain parts of his head) act as conduits for this Light and energy. By covering the hair on her head a woman is managing this energy, containing it, and essentially “saving” it for her family. When she does not cover her hair, this energy can escape or become unmanageable bringing challenges to her and her family.”

Is this something that exists in authentic Kabbalah, and if it does, can you please explain what it actually means? Does a woman need to cover her hair? And if so, where can I read about this in the texts?

I thought that we shouldn’t associate our true self with our body because it was just matter? So what’s the reason for these “weird” rules about dead skin cells?

Answer: Unfortunately, the books are written by people uneducated in Kabbalah, and that is why they understand Kabbalistic texts literary, as if they talk about people in our world, and not the souls. It refers only to the desire, the only thing that was created, and its correction by way of the screen or intention.
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What Is Required Of Us In Dissemination?

admin_bb — Mon, 26 Sep 2011 13:15:29 +0000

We must create our own educational media agency: television, radio, newspapers, and the Internet. We must build a system for children’s education, as well as the women’s organization. The women are ready to work. They feel the problems that are being revealed more than the men do. And they have a huge force of influence that is not being taken advantage of correctly. This is very important.

We need to turn to governments. The contacts that exist today with the UN, UNESCO, and other organizations are not enough. We need to do it massively, by relying on the words of the scientists.

There are many plans, but we can’t realize them because our creative forces are limited. We need to write daily articles and to distribute them on the Internet. We need to create short clips with attractive animation, which will explain various aspects of our message in a simple manner. But this doesn’t exist. We need many people with each of them creating a certain influence towards the outside.
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From the 5th part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 9/23/2011, “One Commandment”

Principles Of Spiritual Work, 09.12.2011

admin_bb — Tue, 20 Sep 2011 11:38:50 +0000

A Collection of Tips and Principles of Spiritual Work Studied During the Daily Kabbalah Lesson

Everything depends on my qualities. We don’t really understand this since we have gotten used to the particular qualities with which we were born, grew up, and are living today. However, if we really change them, we will completely transform our reality. We will grasp a higher layer and perceive it as eternal, situated above time, space, and motion. We can live in completely different conditions there.

All this can come true; this ability is instilled in us. We can influence the Light that forms us, and accordingly, it will give us various qualities. This mechanism was used by Kabbalists of all generations until today.

Yet today we find ourselves in a special state, where the whole humanity acquires this ability. An impulse is born in us to change the present form of existence; we feel continuously worse in this world and find less and less benefit from living in it. We are still holding on to it due to hopelessness and unwillingness to suffer, but we ask more and more persistently “What for? Why? What is the purpose of this existence?”

Questions and suffering of different levels push us to search. At the same time, we develop an ability to control the force that created us, to such an extent that we truly change due to it. Then, during this period of time, this life, in our reality, we will be able to turn the wheels inside us and find ourselves in completely different dimensions.
The crisis is in the connection between people, in the negative relationships between us. In this regard we do not correspond to nature. Nature displays itself as whole, and all the forces in it unite into one mechanism. Meanwhile, we, on the contrary, are separate. This is in fact the crisis: our collision with nature.

Some people study the science of Kabbalah and engage in corrections because they desire this. Others are brought to Kabbalah by a desire for a good material life. People with a point in the heart advance due to work in the group, the studies, and dissemination. They pertain to GAR de Bina. The other part of humanity works in accordance with Malchut, and these two parts unite into 10 Sefirot.

Circulation of the Wisdom of Kabbalah

There needs to be a preliminary condition for revealing spirituality: dissemination of the wisdom of Kabbalah in the whole world, which is called “the call of the Messiah.” I need to reveal to the world that there is something good, pleasant, and worthy, which reveals everything to you. It should be so attractive that even if I don’t feel any lack in anything now, suddenly I feel that I lack another, upper world.

Everything depends on the circulation of the wisdom of Kabbalah, both for those who disseminate and try to realize it, as well as for those who do not understand what it is all about, but feel a need that they cannot fulfill nonetheless.

We need to desire spirituality ourselves, and only then can we reveal it. This desire must be perfect; it should reach a full measure called “Seah.” And I can receive it only from the environment. Therefore, you should understand how important circulation is!

By circulating Kabbalah, we add knowledge to the world, and this has direct influence on people. After all, if they were your children, you would exert all possible effort in order for them to achieve success in spite of the difficulties.

Precisely in the circulation of the mutual guarantee, joint participation in the prevention of crises, in everything that does not deal with the science of Kabbalah, there is complete equality between men and women. Therefore, we should use every opportunity and every appropriate occasion to employ the female force in circulating the message of mutual guarantee.
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Questions About My Wife, Desire, And Revelation Of Kabbalah

admin_bb — Tue, 26 Jul 2011 07:38:45 +0000

Question: I would like to know why your wife does not attend the conventions. Does your wife and sons study Kabbalah?

Answer: She is accustomed to studying and always being present through a virtual connection. She believes that this way she can see, hear, and better participate as a woman.

Question: How do I prepare a place for the Creator to be revealed?

Answer: You have to prepare a desire for it, meaning a desire to obtain the quality of bestowal. It is because the Creator, the quality of bestowal and love, is revealed in a person when he or she yearns for it. Our entire work is to desire. The group, the teacher, and the study are designed to form a desire in oneself.

Question: At the convention in St. Louis you said that Americans have to tell the world about Kabbalah, emphasizing their special role in revealing it to the world. But then you said the same about Russian people that suffered more than others and through this acquired particular sensitivity to reveal and disseminate Kabbalah. Besides this, the main part in the revelation of Kabbalah to humanity is assigned to the Jews who have to become the Light for the nations of the world.

I am confused: Through whom will Kabbalah be revealed to the world finally?

Answer: It will be revealed through every nation and every person to the extent of their efforts to connect with others and in accordance with their natural talents and faculties.
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Opposites Do Not Attract

admin_bb — Mon, 18 Jul 2011 11:15:34 +0000

In the News (from the Daily Mail): “The [University of California at] Berkeley study found that the more popular the individual the more a similarly popular individual would be attracted to them….

“In their report, the researchers claimed the results proved that opposites do not attract at all – and that like is drawn towards like.

They said: ‘Individuals on the dating market will assess their own self-worth and select partners whose social desirability approximately equals their own.’”

My comment: The main law of creation is the “law of equivalence of form,” according to which those who are similar in properties attract each other to the extent of their equivalence, until they merge in their complete similarity. This is a law, hence it is in effect both in our and in the upper worlds.
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Questions About A Spouse, The Barrier, And Evil

admin_bb — Mon, 18 Jul 2011 11:09:48 +0000

Question: I have a question regarding my husband. We are both very serious about our work, and my husband occasionally reaches a point of complete frustration, great sorrow, worry, and even “anger” about the world’s condition, about everything he feels within and without, as if he feels the weight of all the worlds on his shoulders and he needs to find a solution to all the “chaos.”

Is there anything that I can do as a wife to ease the work, to help him feel balanced or more at peace, and to possibly attain the understanding of his responsibility?

Answer: A wife can calm and stabilize her husband better than anyone else. He has to more deeply examine the perception of the world and the governance of the single force. We perceive the world only within ourselves, in our qualities. In other words, to the extent of our corruption, we perceive the world instead of the Creator. If you correct yourself, you will feel the world of Infinity in the Creator’s appearance before you.

Question: If someone crosses the barrier, is there a point where he must move to be physically close to a group, and if he is not, will he do harm to himself?

Answer: The barrier is the boundary between you and your friends.

Question: I know that facing the evil inclination inside of me is part of the way of the truth, on the way of correction. I also know that by facing the evil inclination, the Creator wants to show me that I am opposite to Him and that I am still far away from the quality of bestowal.

But isn’t it enough to see that I am evil? Why does the evil grow to such a monster that it seems to control everything? I feel like I am evil as never before in my life, and I am hurting a lot of people around me.

Answer: These are your desires that are being revealed to you to the extent that you have strength to manage and correct them.
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No More Girls And Boys

admin_bb — Tue, 05 Jul 2011 09:08:11 +0000

In the news (from Associated Press): “STOCKHOLM (AP) – At the “Egalia” preschool, staff avoid using words like “him” or “her” and address the 33 kids as “friends” rather than girls and boys….

Staff try to shed masculine and feminine references from their speech, including the pronouns him or her – “han” or “hon” in Swedish. Instead, they’ve have adopted the genderless “hen,” a word that doesn’t exist in Swedish but is used in some feminist and gay circles….”

The school is especially careful in selecting books and toys for children. It strives to give children the possibility to be who they are and to prevent them from developing barriers that separate masculine and feminine activities.

“There’s a long waiting list for admission to Egalia… It places a special emphasis on fostering an environment tolerant of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people. …Nearly all the children’s books deal with homosexual couples, single parents or adopted children. There are no “Snow White,” “Cinderella” or other classic fairy tales seen as cementing stereotypes.”

My comment: We are surrounded by what is called “Nature.” We know virtually nothing about its laws, reasons, and the goals of its and our own existence. Yet, our observations and knowledge show that everything is in the process of causal development, and nothing is accidental or redundant. Whoever does not agree with this demonstrates their unfamiliarity with the laws of nature.

Hence, all we have to do is to study the laws of nature and carry them out. This will guarantee our good future. A breach of a natural relationship between the sexes brings about tremendous suffering in children and, as they grow up, problems with sexual and social identity.
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Clarifying The Women’s Desire

admin_bb — Wed, 29 Jun 2011 07:18:01 +0000

Question: If all of the desires keep changing and taking on different shades, must I long for something specific, or do I need to strengthen the desire in the form closest to me at the moment?

Answer: No, the women’s desire must be formed into a collective, aggregate, integral women’s desire aimed precisely at the goal. Each woman must analyze the desires inside of her and aim them at the goal to the maximum, as much as it is possible at any given level, in each state she finds herself in.

However, after these desires are basically formed, they must be felt by the men. And men will undoubtedly feel them since they are built this way; they gradually feel the women’s desire. This is like in a family where the wife may not say even one word to her husband, but he feels how she is quietly pushing on him, as if pointing, wanting, and waiting for something from him. He feels this, and he will not relax until he fulfills her desire. In some way he eventually must resolve it.

In the same way, the men should feel this from the women, and the women must constantly work on crystallizing in themselves a more and more definite desire.
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From the 2nd lesson at the Moscow Convention 6/10/11

A Springboard To Infinity

admin_bb — Wed, 22 Jun 2011 11:14:31 +0000

Question: Does the women’s desire contain the desire to acquire the intention to bestow?

Answer: This intention is absent from the desires of both men and women. How can it just appear inside us? All we want is to receive. How can we acquire the intention to bestow? The Light does this and not us.

I am an absolute egoist; I only think about myself and cannot leave this state. Neither the desires in my heart nor the thoughts in my mind can work differently. This is nature, this is how I was made. So what to do?

Only if we, together, wish correctly for the Light to descend upon us and correct us, will we acquire, apart from our egoism, an intention to work with it correctly. This will be the desire for the Light, for the will to bestow, to love.

Our egoism will stay. But working on it correctly, we increase and intensify the Light. This is the essence of our historical path.

From the world of Infinity, our first state, where we begin, we pass through our present, second state, and reach the world of Infinity, the third state, once again. This third state is said to be 620 times greater than the first state. 620 is just a name, in reality it is billions of billions of times greater. The key is that in the third state, we know where we are.

In the first state we were a drop of semen, and in the third state we become completely like the Creator, gaining his status. This is what we achieve thanks to this amplification, when our egoism stays, slowly developing in us as a huge ego, while we can use it to intensify the weak Light of Nefesh that filled us in the first state.

Nefesh is a very small Light, in which life barely exists. And in the third state we achieve a degree that’s called NRNHY, a huge Light that fills all the worlds.
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From the 2nd lesson at the Moscow Convention 6/10/11

Open Sesame!

admin_bb — Tue, 21 Jun 2011 08:28:48 +0000

Question: What does the revelation of the collective women’s desire depend on?

Answer: It depends on the correct organization of the women’s groups around the world. They should be in contact with each other; they should have a women’s virtual magazine or website; they have to communicate, to help other women understand what Kabbalah is, what it leads to, what our common goal is, and what the role of women in this process is.

Your collective women’s desire depends on how much you will be able to become organized together, apart from the men’s group, so that there is a separate large international women’s part. In the spiritual world, in principle, we are presented like two collective parts: men’s and women’s.
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From the 2nd lesson at the Moscow Convention 6/10/11

Envy As Much As You Want

admin_bb — Mon, 20 Jun 2011 13:12:28 +0000

Question: Women have many different desires. How can I identify and distinguish the desire for spirituality so it is above all other desires?

Answer: In principle, it is a general question, not only a woman’s but a man’s as well. Everybody has numerous desires. How can we distinguish the desire for spirituality so it becomes the most prevalent? This is possible only when I am in the right environment that inspires me, that builds the correct value system in me. I become inspired by others and envy them. Envy is a good quality; there are no bad qualities, you only need to use them properly.

If I use envy correctly, if I do my best to perceive what the general women’s group thinks, join them, absorb their enthusiasm for the goal, and recognize with their help the value of spirituality above everything else, my desire increases as a result.
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From the 2nd lesson at the Moscow Convention 6/10/11

Inspire The Men!

admin_bb — Mon, 20 Jun 2011 13:03:49 +0000

Question: What does it mean for the force of the receiver to submit to the force of the giver? Does this mean that I must raise men above myself?

Answer: Every one of us must raise the others above himself or herself. I do the same in relation to the group, the environment: I lower myself as much as possible and become lower than them (-), but on the other hand, I try to receive from them as much greatness of the goal, the group, and the Creator (+) as I can.

I will not be able to receive from the group without lowering myself. Only a small one can receive from the big one. Thus, I lower myself in order to take in their desires, thoughts, aspirations, and the greatness of the ultimate goal. Thus I enrich myself. To the extent of my ability to receive the entire plus from them and make it mine, it will determine my aspiration to advance. But if I do not receive this plus from the group, I have nothing to advance with.

I always receive the desire to aspire forward only from the environment. This is because I am but a preset point, and there is nothing else in it; it is only given to me in order to work with the environment. My entire spiritual vessel (Kli), my entire soul, is what I receive from the environment; it does not exist in me.

And if I do not receive anything from the environment, if I walk around with my nose up and have no desire to hear anything from them, these additional desires cannot appear in me, and I will not have a soul, a place to reveal the Creator. This is very important.

The same pertains to the feminine and masculine parts. The masculine and feminine parts must be tuned to one another. We must lower ourselves in relation to the other part in order to hear and perceive their desires, and then we will receive their aspiration from them. In other words, we must listen to one another and lower ourselves in order to receive the greatness of the goal and the desire from the opposite group.

How do you raise the men above yourself? You simply need to show the men’s group that you exalt them, that you look forward to their achievements, that you believe that they will be able to pick a star from the sky, that you believe in them. Inspire them, and then they will be capable of anything! Be just like a mother who always tells her little child how big, strong, capable, and smart he is and thereby boosts his positive growth. This is necessary for the men because they really depend on women’s approval.
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From the 2nd lesson at the Moscow Convention 6/10/11

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The Light Intensifier

admin_bb — Mon, 20 Jun 2011 09:16:00 +0000

Question: What does it mean to be transparent for the Light and to let it pass through me?

Answer: It means to be similar to the Light. Then it passes through you without any interference. That is, you become its conductor. You are not just something transparent so it can pass through you without obstacles, but you participate in its passage through you.

We remain in our egoism that became so much lighter that it let the Light pass through us. This Light passes and comes out of you even stronger by being transmitted to others. Suppose at the entrance, the power of the Light was “P1,” and the power of your egoism “E.” Then, “P1” multiplied by “E” is the power of the Light “P2” that exits you.

You are an intensifier of the Light on its way.

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From the 2nd lesson at the Moscow Convention 6/10/11