Question: Men have a group that supports them in any state. But what should a woman do when she experiences a “descent“? Where can she get the energy to withstand the growth of egoism which caused her spiritual descent, making her feel indifferent, sad, and lacking the greatness of the goal or of “bestowal”?

Answer: People have been asking me this question for many years and at every women’s lesson. But now there is a practical and effective answer to it: our spiritual stimulator which we are all building together.

Women have to participate in it just like men because all our desires come together into a general desire or Kli. Its size will determine our right to reveal the Light of the Creator.

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Question: Why are there so many problems in family relations today, and so many people are getting divorced or cannot get married at all?

Answer: Egoism is growing all the time. It is no longer the way it was in previous generations where there was almost no difference between one generation and the next. People continued to live on the same land, in the same village, and the son inherited his father’s profession: If the father was a blacksmith, and the son became a blacksmith; if the father was a farmer, and the son became a farmer too. It was customary to live that way. People passed their clothes from one generation to the next, and so on.

Today a person is new at every given moment! In order to change one does not even need to be reborn. And since a person is new, he cannot stand what he had yesterday. Yesterday I got married to someone, and today when I look at her, I am bewildered. I think, “Is this really the woman I married?! Where is the woman I knew yesterday? Where are her qualities?” I don’t see those qualities today. I fail to realize that the change occurred in me. Meanwhile, I look at her and it seems to me that she has changed, and I am unable to live with her anymore.

No one is at fault here. If our evolving desire does not begin to be corrected, the family will be inevitably destroyed. What foundation should people use to come together? Once we stayed together at the “bodily-social” level: a common household, domestic life, children, chores, and the pressure of public opinion. Yet today no one cares about anything. People have risen above all these limitations; they don’t want anything.

Therefore, people are unable to be in and to create a family, and they don’t want to have children. Problems in the family are escalating and they are impossible to solve if the spouses are not united by the common study of spirituality.

No material activities will keep people together. Only this can save a family, as it is written, “A husband and a wife, and the Creator between them.” We have yet to discover to what extent we require the Upper Force, a higher idea, in order to connect at the level of “man.”

From the 4th part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/10/10, A Lesson On Current Events

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A Discussion About The Nature of the Female Part of the Soul
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In the News (from Psychological Science.org): A woman’s touch is all it takes for men to throw all caution to the wind. That’s the conclusion of a new study published online in Psychological Science, a journal of the Association for Psychological Science.

Participants were tested to see if they would take risks, such as invest money or gamble. In the experiment conducted by scientists at Columbia University, “volunteers who had received a light pat on the shoulder from a female researcher while getting instructions for a financial decision-making task were more likely to select risky investments than were the volunteers who did not receive a touch on the shoulder, those who received a pat on the shoulder from a male researcher, or those who received a handshake. Subtle physical contact by a female increased participants’ sense of security, which may have led to a greater willingness to take risks.”

The results suggest that a woman’s touch works the same on adults as it does on infants, making them feel more secure, and more willing to take risks.

My Comment: Kabbalah divides the spiritual work into two parts. The female part (Malchut) helps, inspires, directs, and provides the desire. The male part (the Screen and the Reflected Light), being directed by the female part toward the goal, goes out and "hunts," takes risks, and rises above their nature. Without the women’s participation, both men and women are unable to achieve the goal.

In the experiment, both men and women were willing to take bigger risks in hopes of receiving a bigger reward. Women are also capable of inspiring each other, cultivating bigger desires within their circle. This is the reason why we need to create a Kabbalah organization for women, instead of individual women influencing their own men. Proper cooperation between both the male and female parts will certainly secure a bright future for us all.

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A question I received: Why do women devote so much time to their appearance? Why is it so important for a woman to be beautiful in her own eyes and in the eyes of a man? Does this phenomenon have a spiritual root?

My Answer: A woman’s desire to dress up and beautify herself stems from the Upper root. “To beautify” means “to correct oneself” and to attain similarity with the Creator, the power of love and bestowal.

This aspiration finds its root in the depth of the soul. Our “point in the heart” forces us to beautify ourselves and decorate our “disgusting” egoistic nature. To be beautiful means to be similar to the Creator. A person becomes handsome when the Light of the Creator illuminates him.

Why particularly do women beautify themselves? It is because in our world women symbolize Malchut, the root of creation. A man and a woman, a bride and a groom serve as an illustration of the relationship between the Creator and the creation. The creation is a woman, the Creator is a man.

Thus it follows that each of us (both men and women) have to beautify their souls and become good-looking!

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Question: Why are men and women always separated when they study Kabbalah?

Answer: The professional opinion of neurologists is that the difference between a male chimpanzee and a man is significantly less than the difference between an adult man and an adult woman. The genetic dimorphism is a lot stronger within the human race than between a man and a male Bonobo chimpanzee.

Question: The best donor for human transplants is considered a pig. Which animal brain is most similar in structure to a human brain?

Answer: If we take into consideration protein composition and DNA, we’ll see that it is very similar to a chimpanzee’s brain. For example, the difference in structural proteins of Bonobo chimpanzees that inhabit Western Africa and human beings is less than 1%.

The whole process of evolution is in fact an implementation of the desires of egoistic monsters who only wish to consume food, propagate (reproduce themselves) and dominate each other.  This is how a pack of chimpanzees is organized and at the same time it is similar to how a human society is constructed even in the most democratic and civilized countries.

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A question I received: Yesterday we held a worldwide women’s conference which was devoted to women’s spiritual development and questions of upbringing and education of the younger generation. What would you say to a woman studying Kabbalah to help her implement Kabbalah in the world?

My Answer: I am very happy that this gathering took place. I was also happy to have the opportunity to speak to women there. I have always said, and I continue to reiterate, that spiritual advancement is impossible without women. Whenever the Torah tells a story about a man, it always mentions the word “Et,” which refers to his female desire, Nukvah. That’s because without a woman, Nukvah, the Shechina, the desire, there is nothing we can accomplish.

We always talk about the Light, but it has to have a place to come and clothe into. This is why women’s desires, their connection with the science of Kabbalah, and their participation are so important. I really hope that even more women will come to Kabbalah and take part in the process of the world’s correction. Then we can be sure that the correction will really happen, and happen quickly.

It is written that the nation of Israel came out of Egypt by virtue of the righteous women. The same is true for all the corrections, and the same was written about the reception of the Torah at the foot of Mount Sinai. Whenever men accomplish great deeds in the world, they do it because women obligate them to do it.

Therefore, I hope that this will happen to all of us together and that we will hold many more such meetings and many more women will attend in order to help all of us and to fulfill this holy work together of revealing the Creator to all the people in the world.

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A question I received: I have a question about the women’s organization. I am afraid that it will gradually turn into an enterprise to support the men, the different projects, and so on. I feel that we women lack an inner connection, an adhesion of our desires, without any external actions.

In order to demand anything from the male part of the group, we have to have a clear understanding of what we are demanding. We have to be ready for what will be given to us. We need clarifications.

It seems to me that such clarifications should be performed by the women’s organization. We have to search for answers in the original sources. We have to understand everything clearly, see the general picture, and so on.

My Answer: I am not going to say anything else to you because everything has already been said. The only thing that remains is for you to perform the clarification and the realization.

My only advice to you is, to the extent it is possible, take your personal egoism out of your relationships, because the way things stand, one woman does not wish to listen and help another even for the sake of their mutual success.

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Questions I received about women’s role in the world’s correction, unity and being a Kabbalah student:

Question: If a woman does not go through recognition of evil, then what does she feel before she crosses the Machsom? What is her state just before the Machsom? If a woman does not go through recognition of evil, then what does she correct?

If both a man and woman are in Kabbalah, do they pass the Machsom together or can each of them pass it separately?

What is the difference between the unity achieved between men in the group and the unity attained between a man and a woman?

My Answer: Each one is for oneself with the help of all!

Question: What are the challenges and opportunities of the global economic crisis to women?

My Answer: It is the equal participation with men in the future correction of the world.

Question: Today I saw an old interview with you by a Russian journalist. There you said that you don’t have female students. My question is, if you don’t have female students what are you for the women who engage in Bnei Baruch and who follow the lectures?

My Answer: That was long, long ago…

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Two questions I received from women about necessities and bearing children:

Question: Being a woman (and we are more vain I hear), what is the parameter of “normal consumption?” Is my going to get my hair done regularly at the beauty shop excessive, and what about all the beauty products that women consume – the clothes, the accessories, the jewelry, the shoes? Should we have only two pairs of shoes? I completely understand that excessive consumption of food leads to bad health – that one I get.

My Answer: If your head is “in the clouds,” then your mind cannot be focused on shopping. This is what will happen naturally, won’t it?

Question: In this world of crisis and suffering, should one want to have children? (I am a 32 year old woman, childless, and wondering if this egoistic desire to have kids should be fulfilled or not, as we know it is so hard to live in the world we know.)

My Answer: You should bear and raise children, in order to make them and yourself similar to the Creator.

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