A question I received: Yesterday we held a worldwide women’s conference which was devoted to women’s spiritual development and questions of upbringing and education of the younger generation. What would you say to a woman studying Kabbalah to help her implement Kabbalah in the world?

My Answer: I am very happy that this gathering took place. I was also happy to have the opportunity to speak to women there. I have always said, and I continue to reiterate, that spiritual advancement is impossible without women. Whenever the Torah tells a story about a man, it always mentions the word “Et,” which refers to his female desire, Nukvah. That’s because without a woman, Nukvah, the Shechina, the desire, there is nothing we can accomplish.

We always talk about the Light, but it has to have a place to come and clothe into. This is why women’s desires, their connection with the science of Kabbalah, and their participation are so important. I really hope that even more women will come to Kabbalah and take part in the process of the world’s correction. Then we can be sure that the correction will really happen, and happen quickly.

It is written that the nation of Israel came out of Egypt by virtue of the righteous women. The same is true for all the corrections, and the same was written about the reception of the Torah at the foot of Mount Sinai. Whenever men accomplish great deeds in the world, they do it because women obligate them to do it.

Therefore, I hope that this will happen to all of us together and that we will hold many more such meetings and many more women will attend in order to help all of us and to fulfill this holy work together of revealing the Creator to all the people in the world.

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A question I received: I have a question about the women’s organization. I am afraid that it will gradually turn into an enterprise to support the men, the different projects, and so on. I feel that we women lack an inner connection, an adhesion of our desires, without any external actions.

In order to demand anything from the male part of the group, we have to have a clear understanding of what we are demanding. We have to be ready for what will be given to us. We need clarifications.

It seems to me that such clarifications should be performed by the women’s organization. We have to search for answers in the original sources. We have to understand everything clearly, see the general picture, and so on.

My Answer: I am not going to say anything else to you because everything has already been said. The only thing that remains is for you to perform the clarification and the realization.

My only advice to you is, to the extent it is possible, take your personal egoism out of your relationships, because the way things stand, one woman does not wish to listen and help another even for the sake of their mutual success.

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Questions I received about women’s role in the world’s correction, unity and being a Kabbalah student:

Question: If a woman does not go through recognition of evil, then what does she feel before she crosses the Machsom? What is her state just before the Machsom? If a woman does not go through recognition of evil, then what does she correct?

If both a man and woman are in Kabbalah, do they pass the Machsom together or can each of them pass it separately?

What is the difference between the unity achieved between men in the group and the unity attained between a man and a woman?

My Answer: Each one is for oneself with the help of all!

Question: What are the challenges and opportunities of the global economic crisis to women?

My Answer: It is the equal participation with men in the future correction of the world.

Question: Today I saw an old interview with you by a Russian journalist. There you said that you don’t have female students. My question is, if you don’t have female students what are you for the women who engage in Bnei Baruch and who follow the lectures?

My Answer: That was long, long ago…

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Two questions I received from women about necessities and bearing children:

Question: Being a woman (and we are more vain I hear), what is the parameter of “normal consumption?” Is my going to get my hair done regularly at the beauty shop excessive, and what about all the beauty products that women consume – the clothes, the accessories, the jewelry, the shoes? Should we have only two pairs of shoes? I completely understand that excessive consumption of food leads to bad health – that one I get.

My Answer: If your head is “in the clouds,” then your mind cannot be focused on shopping. This is what will happen naturally, won’t it?

Question: In this world of crisis and suffering, should one want to have children? (I am a 32 year old woman, childless, and wondering if this egoistic desire to have kids should be fulfilled or not, as we know it is so hard to live in the world we know.)

My Answer: You should bear and raise children, in order to make them and yourself similar to the Creator.

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Three questions I received from women:

Question: In your post, “The Surrounding Light’s Influence Depends On Your Aspiration to the Future State,” you wrote that the biggest influence of the Surrounding Light occurs during the morning lesson. Does it work the same way for the women studying Kabbalah?

My Answer: The Light comes to a woman from the men’s part of the group and through her participation in dissemination, rather than from knowledge, studying, and the group.

Question: Does Kabbalah deem it acceptable for a woman to make a living by singing, and can she sing about the purpose, the goal in Kabbalah?

My Answer: Yes to both questions.

Question: I began to study Kabbalah, and I would like my husband to study as well, but his interests are completely different. What can I do?

My Answer: Leave him alone.

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A question I received: Do you ask yourself why women ask you the same question all the time? The answer is: because you don’t give them the answer. You don’t give the answer for the individual spiritual advancement of the women. When women ask you about this, you start a long speech about the men’s part, the group, the women’s role in the world Kli, and so on, avoiding saying how women can make spiritual advancement individually. Today at the morning lesson you gave a very perplexing explanation, ending with the frightening words, “if a woman advances in spirituality alone, she will get the form of an angel or demon.” So I have the feeling that you are avoiding telling us something.

My Answer: I have nothing else to say: a woman does not wish to hear the answer because it does not make her the same as a man. She cannot sit next to the men and study together with them at night, hug them, drink and sing with them, and so on, because she is a woman, and I cannot change that. I do provide the method of individual correction, but it is not what women desire; instead, they want to be “like men.” That is their tragedy.

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Questions I received from women:

Question: If 2009 depends on us and our correction of our egoistic nature, how can we contribute to this process most effectively?

My Answer: By explaining it to everyone else.

Question: Why does a person lose faith?

My Answer: In order to obtain knowledge.

Question: What can be done in order not to lose faith?

My Answer: Obtain knowledge.

Question: Is it true that Kabbalah does not treat energy healing seriously, or does it simply prefer not to talk about this in order to avoid confusion?

My Answer: Everything that helps is beneficial.

Question: If we don’t reach correction, we return to this world. Does the same happen to vicious and evil people?

My Answer: Yes, and we are just like them.

Question: I am from Chile and I am 11 years old. I watch the children that study with you on Fridays with admiration. I wish there could be a day devoted to us, children in my country. You teach us how to grow and have a better future. What should I do so I won’t lose this desire in my heart?

My Answer: Continue to be together with us, and the rest will come!

Question: As a woman, what should I do for men in my city and country to unite into a group?

My Answer: You should disseminate the knowledge of “how to live a better life.”

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Three questions I received from women on relationships with men:

Question: I cannot accept your assertion that “a man assesses a woman based on love – not for her, but for his hormones.” Could you elaborate on this?

My Answer: Ask physiologists, doctors, biologists, geneticists, and just sensible people.

Question: Why do men think there is some perfect, ideal woman waiting for them around the corner that will somehow be different and better than all other women? Why would a man expect a woman to fulfill needs that are basically impossible and almost supernatural? Why does it seem like the more a woman tries to give a man what he wants, the more he expects from her?

My Answer: Because they are egoists!

Question: What limits are there in a woman’s relationship toward her husband? How should she behave towards him when he has such high expectations of her but doesn’t listen to her and ignores her basic needs, putting himself before her and the children? What should a woman do when her man behaves this way? And when should she give up on him? This is particularly about men within the group.

My Answer: The reason for all these feelings is a woman’s dependence on a man. Everything will change only together with the general correction, as a consequence of it. Therefore, participate in the dissemination of Kabbalah instead of blaming men and the Creator.

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A question I received: In one of your latest entries, someone asked you: How important is it for a woman to study in a group? And you answered: “There is no such thing as a women’s group. A woman and a group are incompatible.” Are you saying that because I’m a woman, I cannot study together with other people in a group? My boyfriend and I want to join a “real life” (not virtual) group and study with them. So how am I supposed to study? By myself? At home?  Please explain.

My Answer: Women are not organized into groups of friends because the work of uniting is intended for the men only, in accordance with their nature. This is not suitable for a woman’s nature. However, during the actual study of Kabbalah, women can participate together with men or study in groups of women.

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Two questions I received on what being a woman means in spirituality:

Question: You say that in order to advance spiritually, a woman has to help the male part of the world group, and this is how she will obtain her fulfillment. However, when a woman expresses a direct desire “to be like the Creator,” everyone laughs at this. Should a woman be ashamed of this desire if she has it?

My Answer: Don’t worry. It’s quite the contrary: all of us, men and women alike – all the souls, are the female part of the Kli. We are all the desire relative to the Creator, who is the male part, the One who fulfills us.

Question: In this life I am female. In my past lives was I always female? If I reach equivalence of form in this lifetime, will I be female in spirituality? If so, will a man also be male in spirituality, or female because he will be filled with Light in his vessel which is female?

My Answer: You were always female and you will be female up until the Final Correction.

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