Homosexuality Comes from the Breaking of the Souls
A question I received: A guy attracted to his own sex, but who does not act upon his desire, has come to the (Kabbalistic) group and tried to unite with others, raise his desire for the spiritual over all disturbances, and participate in sharing the wisdom. He soon discovered that he cannot be a part of the group, and that he needs to connect through the Internet – this is the advice of Kabbalists for this particular situation. My question is the following: What should such a person feel and do in this situation? How could it be that the Creator brought him to the group, and now, the Creator is kicking him out? Does this person need to understand that he was born with a flaw in this world? A society that strives to rise above the physical sees him as being unfit to bond with, but he had no choice in being a homosexual. Didn’t the Creator make him like this? How can he explain to his friends that the reason he is withdrawing from the group is not that he is no longer interested, but because it’s just something that needs to be done?
My Answer: There is no answer to this question. It’s impossible to explain how the souls that broke during their descent from Above brought about different combinations of attributes as they intermixed. A person will discover who he is on his own as he discovers the common soul of Adam within him, and his place within it. Everything will be corrected through the correction of the soul, but his path of correction is outside of the group for now.
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I’ve seen a lot of talkings about Kabbalah on this subject! but as Kabbalah student and also a Torah student, one thing becames clear to me! a good tree cannot give good fruits and rotten ones!! and the Kabbalah texts of VAYESHEV and VAYECHY states very clear about humanity misleads sexual behaviours and their consequencies in this world and in the world to come and the quote of Rav Laitman about… ” A person will discover who he is on his own as he discovers the common soul of Adam within him, and his place within it. Everything will be corrected through the correction of the soul, but his path of correction is outside of the group for now.”… fits perfectly on this subject!!! we need to correct ourselves onces we have a clear vision what HASHEM want from us we immediately starts make all our efforts to change our ways…… Shalom!!
It seems to be a matter about marriage. Homosexuals cannot get united among themselves under a Kabbalistic frame. If a man loves another man, he must find a woman and get married to her – otherwise he will be not uniting malchut with zeir anpin. That’s ok as a statement, but not as a Kabbalistic State with rules and sanctions – because there’s not coercion in Kabbalah. If there’s coercion in Kabbalah, it is not Kabbalah anymore. Seemingly a gay friend must put himself aside from the group and maybe come back afterwards, when/if he feels he’s already cured of his disease. It seems to be a far enough solution. I see no confusion in it.
You say that gay men are the result of broken souls. Answer me this then: what is a universal Altruism, if it applies to everyone except gay people? Why is there a requirement that Kabbalah be studied in a group of friends a requirement for all, except for gay people? Why are gay people who have enough problems coping with the loneliness of this God-given malady, told that they must study on their own with nothing but the company of a computer screen? If two men are in a committed relationship and they are practicing receiving for the sake of sharing and they are conscious humans who are working on helping other people and making the world a better place, then, in my opinion, they are revealing more light in the world than a straight man who has a wife and children but is cheating on her with another woman, or cheating in business or not respecting other humans. Where is the respect for each others humanity?
Many homosexuals do choose not to be religious because they have their own proof that it is not a choice and that they are more unconditionally loving than the righteous religious leaders that judge them. Are such a multitude of animal species also unnatural because if you look it up, you’ll learn that they also engage in same sex behavior for pleasure and some species also choose a life partner of the same sex for life. This has been proven and it is a fact even though for years there were attempts to cover it up. Don’t you think that such ancient books only cloud the ONLY reason for holiness; UNCONDITIONAL LOVE?
I’m a gay men and the most difficult thing was to accept my self and be OK wit it .is the most difficult task i have to do , since I did it I don’t have any problems wit it. I don’t feel rejected not even from religious people and is because I accepted and i respect my self , and the people the don’t accept, is the own tikkun the need to work on , as i do wit my to accept them . I was rejected from socialite ,family and religion a very short edge and that bring my to be a very Spiritual in a way was good I grew up fast , searching for answers , why ? (I cant found one) and my personal opinion is . we all going to be gay in one of are life times , is a test ,to work in self acceptance . we all have a relative o friend the is suffering is not a easy life,.maybe a son or brother the point is to love and accept them . If i pay attention to differences am going to separate my self from others, the pint is to focus in similarities to grow as One we all have something we need to work on it is the reason am here .
i really do not think a persons sexuality should be in any way an issue for the study of kabbalah.judemental behaiour espcially when negative has no place whatsoever within kabbalistic thought.we are all loved equally by the creator-we are all here to correct and to reach equivalence of form withthe creator,tht means pure unconditional love and bestowal for ALL humanity.negative thought and dislike for any human being has no place within kabbalistic teaching.
Thank you Danny, you did help clarify this for me. You are right about what our intention should ALWAYS be.
Hugs,
Cheryl
First of all, one should not EVER ask a heterosexual to explain homosexuality in ANY context. . . that’s like asking an auto mechanic to explain brain surgery. On one hand, we cannot dispute Rav Laitman’s answer to the question- – it could be compared to putting a man in a room full of women. However, sexuality or gender prefference is under the catagory of personal states. When it comes to the study of Kabbalah, and studying with a group in general, you don’t reveal personal states, moods, or personal circumstances. When you enter the room with the rest of your friends, you leave all of that outside. You think about your friends and you think of the goal, and that’s it. You don’t bring your corrupted desires into the room. Otherwise, you aren’t thinking of your friends. You’re not thinking about the goal – you’re drilling a whole in the boat. If you cannot go into the study and think of the advancement of your friends and the work that you have to do, then you are not yet ready to study. Gay or strait, black or white, christian or morman, muslim or jew. . .All of us are here for the same thing. we are alll part of the same creation and going through the same process.
I’m wondering why this issue was even brought up in the group? It’s never been discussed in my group.
I am in a physical group with a gay man (I am not), does it hurt or help my spiritual progress? Would I be better off with no physical group than with him?
I have family members who are gay, so I too have questions about how this happens to a person. Because of my close association with these people, I know that this is NOT something they choose. Why would someone choose such a difficult situation? The fact that we are taught that Kabbalah has absolutely no relation to the physical world seems like a major contradition in this case. I’m confused by all this as well.